is this bad?

[popopola]

serious reply-ers please.

so there's this girl that was basically my best friend. She was sophisticated and everything until she started drinking to impress people. Long story short, she drinks every weekend and it always leads her to do other shit like making out with a lot of guys and blazing. Because of this, we're not friends anymore.

but that's not what i'm wondering. I was wondering if drinking THAT much every week is bad? How bad is that and how long will it take till her liver gets messed up or something? She has no intentions of stopping and she won't listen to me so I guess she wants to learn the hard way.

[Jsamp]

I drink more than I should. I have had the same job for over 8 years. Attend college with a good gpa. Invest in the stock market and have over $12000 invested. Maintain a healthy relationship with my daughter. So drinking can be bad but it doesn't mean your throwing your life down the drain. If its only on the weekends she drinks less than me. Also nothing is wrong with "blazing". In fact it is safer than drinking and smoking cigarettes.

You may be concerned but do you really think not being her friend is going to make her stop? You are fooling yourself if you are. People do what THEY want whether it is learned the hard way or not. Occasional smoking and drinking is not that bad. You may think so and it may be against your beliefs but not against hers. She will stop if she wants whether you want it or not. You may not like it and if you don't then don't hang out with her. If you are that good of a friend you need to be there when she needs to. If your jealous because she is not making out with you you need to cut her loose because you are only hurting yourself in the long run.

/goes to get another beer

[WeedZ1985]

@ popo

is this the same girl you're in love with? poor popo...

[Nacos]

why have you not "hit" that in a drunken state before?

[ruselli01]

simple logic: as we all know anything that goes beyond the limit is bad, and this girl hasn't gone beyond the limits yet. therefore, until her liver says goodbye, she'll continue what she's doing coz she thinks it's just ok.

[popopola]

Originally Posted by Jsamp

I drink more than I should. I have had the same job for over 8 years. Attend college with a good gpa. Invest in the stock market and have over $12000 invested. Maintain a healthy relationship with my daughter. So drinking can be bad but it doesn't mean your throwing your life down the drain. If its only on the weekends she drinks less than me. Also nothing is wrong with "blazing". In fact it is safer than drinking and smoking cigarettes.

You may be concerned but do you really think not being her friend is going to make her stop? You are fooling yourself if you are. People do what THEY want whether it is learned the hard way or not. Occasional smoking and drinking is not that bad. You may think so and it may be against your beliefs but not against hers. She will stop if she wants whether you want it or not. You may not like it and if you don't then don't hang out with her. If you are that good of a friend you need to be there when she needs to. If your jealous because she is not making out with you you need to cut her loose because you are only hurting yourself in the long run.

haha don't get me wrong, I don't want to make out with her.

but yeah, I agree with you saying how I have different beliefs than her. I grew up in a catholic school learning all my life that what she does is the worst possible thing to do with your life, I guess I'm just trying to force my opinions on her.

but really, she used to be under control and everything. Nowadays everyone agrees that she has become a slut.

@Weedz: lol yep

[Fd!]

its probly just a phase, most girls I know that went through something like that, stopped, not at liver issues (or any health problem) or hangovers or the fact that all their friends thought of them as sluts, but to the fact that either they were to the limit of getting rapped, or just plain rapped or they just realized by themselves that they were all alone all of the sudden, but really, how much does she really drink? is it only weekends? how drunk does she get? can you keep a rational conversation with her? or she just goes really wasted?

and I think a lot like jsamp as far as drinking comes.

[Jsamp]

Honestly I'm an alcoholic and drink way to much.

But really pop trying to get her to do what you want and not being her friend will come back to bite you in the ass. Trust me at almost 28 I've been in similar situations. It may be hard but if you really care about her be there for her and let her know you are if she ever needs someone trustworthy.

My experience was something like this...I had a friend that I cared for very much and wanted to be with. We started hanging out when her and her ex split up. She had a long history with this guy. They eventually got back together. At first he had a job and shortly after he quit. She barely made enough money to pay her rent and living expenses. She keep buying beer (for her bf) and weed for both of them. I saw that he was basically sucking her financially dry. I kept trying to get her to see that and that she should not be with him. She flipped out on me one day and said it was none of my fucking business etc. Shortly after she got evicted from her apartment. I haven't hung out with her since. I have bumped into her twice out in public. But haven't been able to hang out with her in over 5 years. Though I was right and he was bad news I should have kept it to myself or at least not so forceful about it. I regret it to this day cause I basically lost a good friend.

[citizenstitch]

Originally Posted by popopola

serious reply-ers please.

so there's this girl that was basically my best friend. She was sophisticated and everything until she started drinking to impress people. Long story short, she drinks every weekend and it always leads her to do other shit like making out with a lot of guys and blazing. Because of this, we're not friends anymore.

but that's not what i'm wondering. I was wondering if drinking THAT much every week is bad? How bad is that and how long will it take till her liver gets messed up or something? She has no intentions of stopping and she won't listen to me so I guess she wants to learn the hard way.

I drink every weekend. There isnt anything wrong with it. When you become an alcoholic (need to drink everyday) then there is a problem. Dont buy into this abstinence only thing that the church and elementary school tries to spoon feed you. I love school, but jsut some of those special interest groups that get thrown in i dont buy into.

anyway, if you want some peace of mind. do some research on the effects on drinking only on the weekend. you wont find any real negative results. Only when it effects some normal behavior will it become a problem.
You miss work to get drunk or get high. You play video games instead go to class.

The problem seems to me that its not what she is doing that bothers me. I think you are jealous that she is having all this fun without you. Or shes not giving you any.

[popopola]

Originally Posted by Jsamp

Honestly I'm an alcoholic and drink way to much.

But really pop trying to get her to do what you want and not being her friend will come back to bite you in the ass. Trust me at almost 28 I've been in similar situations. It may be hard but if you really care about her be there for her and let her know you are if she ever needs someone trustworthy.

My experience was something like this...I had a friend that I cared for very much and wanted to be with. We started hanging out when her and her ex split up. She had a long history with this guy. They eventually got back together. At first he had a job and shortly after he quit. She barely made enough money to pay her rent and living expenses. She keep buying beer (for her bf) and weed for both of them. I saw that he was basically sucking her financially dry. I kept trying to get her to see that and that she should not be with him. She flipped out on me one day and said it was none of my fucking business etc. Shortly after she got evicted from her apartment. I haven't hung out with her since. I have bumped into her twice out in public. But haven't been able to hang out with her in over 5 years. Though I was right and he was bad news I should have kept it to myself or at least not so forceful about it. I regret it to this day cause I basically lost a good friend.

that's a sad story, and honestly that makes me want to become friends with her again.

but ever since our argument she told me how she really thinks of me. She said shes sick of me and can't hang out with me because it feels like I judge her all the time. (I'm not really judging her, I'm just doing what you were doing Jsamp, I was giving her advice) Anyways, whenever I tell her she needs to cut back just a bit and control herself she gets angry and accuses me of judging her.

In the end, I realized she's fake, she never cared about me as a friend. The way she treated me the way she just throws other away to get where she wants. She really has changed for the worse and I don't think I need a friend like that. You said you regret losing your friend because she was a good friend. but in my case, she wasn't. Although it still is pretty sad how it all ended...